When Everything Is Important

Putting away all of our Christmas decor, I couldn’t help but notice the thick layer of dust left behind, covering every surface of my home. My time was spread thin this December and cleaning was neglected for the sake of holiday festivities and Advent reflections.


Usually, I’m a sufficient housekeeper. I can declutter and surface clean like nobody’s business, but when it comes to actual cleaning, I’m not super structured. It’s hard for me to get into a routine and a rhythm.


I know friends who have specific cleaning schedules for the week. My schedule looked like this: Mondays are the floors, dusting, and reorganizing all of the toys. Tuesdays are bathrooms, baseboards, and cleaning out the refrigerator. Wednesdays are weed pulling, garden trimming, cleaning off the patio…you get the idea. I love the intentionality behind this. I love the promise of a perfectly clean home and yard at every moment. But I also have three little boys, church priorities, a husband, a blog, photography commitments, and a need to still maintain my sanity.


The result? Things fell through the cracks until I feel overwhelmed by everything that needs to be cleaned!


When we don’t prioritize and act with intentionality, things fall through the cracks. We end up spinning our wheels and getting nowhere, leaving us frazzled and burnt out.


Spoiler alert: I’m not just talking about cleaning. I believe this is true in all aspects of our lives. When everything in our lives is the “most important” we float around aimlessly, we say yes to every shiny opportunity that comes our way. But just because it’s a good thing, doesn’t mean it’s a good thing for right now. This is a lesson I’ve learned the hard way so many times, and I’m still learning.


Right now, it’s hard to know what I should say yes to in this season because I don’t know what is a priority in this season.


Have you felt this way before? Like your plate was full of only necessary, well-intentioned, important things and yet you still felt burnt out, worn out, and empty?What I’ve realized for my own life is that this feeling of being run down comes from allowing too many things to become important.


We can’t be intentional about the things in our lives that matter if we don’t stay focused on what is most important.


My husband and I have taken the last three months to sort through what matters to us and how our lives focus on that. We’ve put everything on the table, nothing off limits, to see what belongs and what needs to be taken off. We are cutting things that are important and good and wonderful but are not in line with our focus in this season. We are saying yes only to things that are necessary to gain traction with our specific goals.


For us, this starts with aligning ourselves with Christ. We can’t see clearly what matters the most without him.


What do you want 2019 to be about? Scratch that, what do you want your life to be about? Are the things on your plate helping and supporting that? Or are they draining and distracting you?


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I’ll end with this, Ruth, (I call her Ruth because I like to make believe we are boymom besties—she’s also known as Ruth Chou Simons) says, “Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.” I think this is an excellent thing to keep in mind as we reevaluate what to focus on and what needs to be put on hold for 2019. Happy prioritizing my friends!